Inspiration

#Contentology #Inspiration

What to do when inspiration doesn’t spark?! When nothing flows and you don’t have your mojo anywhere to be found? How do you try to ignite the motivation or drive when you are tired, worn out and overwhelmed? I know I’ve been there, I know I have days like this.

For me one thing that helps is finding the voices of those that do inspire. It’s finding the voices of those that are real, authentic, down to earth, gritty and determined. It’s knowing that they are human, they are flawed, just like we are, but that they have decided to step out of their comfort zone nonetheless.

When I hear voices and stories like that- that’s what I find inspiring. Those kinds of real voices helps me to believe, helps me to make hard changes, helps me to take risks, when I’d really rather not-I’m not really a risk taker or an adrenalin seeker at all. All my business mentors are this voice in my head and are voices I listen to, to get me inspired, to get me moving to get me growing and changing.

So as you know I’m in the business of change; usually for others. And I know that change is about taking risks, so for me, to ask my clients and parents of kids and families to make change, I have to walk the talk and do the same.

So I need to find people who inspire me to take those risks, to cheer me on, to show me that it can be done! And just because some of the change or risk taking that we might be doing could be slightly different-it doesn’t matter, all change is hard and all fears work the same way-they make you shrivel, they make you want to hide! Which will just not do!

So, do you have someone you in your life-a friend a mentor that helps you feel inspired? Or maybe it’s someone you follow on social media that helps you find that inspiration? Is there someone who inspires you to be a happier human, to have more loving connection within your family or to assist you in your job as a parent and human?

I think it’s really important that we have inspiring people around uswhether in person or otherwise, or whether it’s through images around us, nature, food, homes, art, music or words. Everyone needs a little inspiration to get them through the day.

And one little tip that I currently use is this:

Be tuned into good news and those that bring it. Have your radar up for it! Block the doom and gloom news (and those that like to bring it, if need be) but keep an ear and eye open for the positive stories and great outcomes-whether on the tv, radio or in your news feed. It can make a big difference if you purposefully look for positive new stories rather than just absorbing what the mainstream media often puts out.

So what else do I do when inspiration might be slow to be found?

Well when it comes down to it, I look to YOU.

Knowing that if I can inspire someone to take a risk, to step into something uncomfortable and scary, because they want a better future, then that in turn, inspires ME to be visible and daring as your psychologist.

To unveil the mystery of what a psychologist is, what talking with one can do, then that inspires me to do all I can do to make that happen. So if my writing or posts inspires even one person to begin the change they need, then this is enough inspiration for me.

So if you’ve not found your inspiration, keep searching for it and in the meantime, you can BE the inspiration for others.

Kate

Be Fearless

Chill Out

#Contentology #chillout

“Chill out” can mean lots of different things to different people, for me it either means to calm down (such as telling someone to ‘be chill’ when they are getting stressed out), or it’s a way of making note that we need to put relaxation at the top of our priority list.

For lots of people the catching a Netflix episode is a way of chilling out for a bit (or zoning out from thoughts and concerns of every day life), but for me to get really chilled would be to take a very quiet and relaxing bath or just to chill out in the spa. Another way I like to chill out is to paint or draw as this is totally absorbing and creative pastime for me (and to be honest, it’s usually easier to get to this activity than the relaxing bath!).

So how often do you purposely make time to really relax and have uninterrupted time that allows you to just feel totally calm and peaceful or get lost in your favourite activity?

 It can be really challenging to prioritise this activity for ourselves as parents, because there are so many other demands on our time, so much noise and interruptions in the home. But when you think of what this capacity to have chill-out time does for us and our families, that helps to make it a priority.

Chilling out says you value down time, it says that it’s ok to have fun, it models self-care and it can also invite play and connection with family members as well, if that’s what your chilling looks like. So do take a moment to connect with how you relax and try and put a focus on getting some of that in your life today.

#creativepastime #relaxing_time #relaxyourmind

Chill out – creative pastime

Favourite Food

#Contentology #Comfort Food

Today I’m talking food and all the favourite things. For me I usually really like to pair my food with the seasons and for me, winter food is all about comfort food and comfort eating. With ‘stay at home’ and COVID-19 having happened, baking and making has also been a theme at our place.

We’ve gotten pretty good in our house making flat bread-as soft taco’s are a massive favourite with everyone and pizza dough-also a Friday night favourite.

There is something about fresh, warm bread that is so comforting and delicious. Having actually successfully made it ourselves also brings a huge sense of achievement-as cooking is certainly not my strength! It’s also been great to see my kids get involved and interested in it-something I’m thrilled to see.

And whilst winter has just begun, as someone who loves the warmth, I’m already longing for the days when the menu shifts to a spring/summer focus – because generally speaking these are the meals and menu that I most prefer, but in the meantime I will enjoy my homemade pizzas! And another thing I love about pizza making is that it can now be enjoyed with my extended family, as for me favourite food should be enjoyed with your favourite people!

What’s been your ‘go to’ favourites these past months and do you love a winter menu? And has cooking been something to bring your family together or to teach new skills? It’d be great to hear what you’ve noticed about your favourite foods and how the new season changes-or doesn’t- change it.

Kate

#FavouriteFood #comfortfoodforthesoul #favouritefoodwithfavouritepeople

Favourite Food – Comfort Food

Reducing Overwhelm

#Contentology #thePip

Take the advice of your pets when dealing with overwhelm sometimes it’s our bodies way of telling us we are tired and need to rest. My two cats and elderly dog have no trouble resting when they feel inclined. Allowing our bodies and minds time and space to process and to do ‘nothing’ is really important, especially if you are someone who typically likes to be ‘doing’ all the time.

Taking time to rest, reflect and recharge will protect you from overwhelm in the future because you will be coming from a place that is calm and you’ll have space to think before responding.

If you have trouble doing this and even when you try to relax and go slow, think about using a device such as the PIP, a biofeedback device that can help to train you in stress management and mindfulness skills.

Using more mindfulness to stay in the moment is a great skill to learn. The PIP helps everyone even if they have little mindfulness or meditation experience to practice getting calm and reducing overwhelm. To find out more visit their website or pop me a question in the comments if you are curious about using it.

Kate

#ReducingOverwhelm #restreflectrenew #mindfulnesspractice

the Pip – Mindfulness Practice

Money

#Contentology #Money

Where do you use your money?

What do you think is worth spending your money on?

Spending money on at least one good family holiday every year or so has been a priority to me because that’s an investment in memories and my family.

And whilst I’m missing the planning and dreaming of our next holiday-usually somewhere warm and ‘beachy’- it’s meant I’ve been able to really reflect on those memories, revisit those photos and relive those holidays in reflection all over again.

This really reminds me that it’s been such an important use of our money and there is no way we’d ever regret the expenses or those moments. Money in exchange for precious and everlasting experiences and memories seems like a fair trade to me.

Additionally, I’m incredibly fortunate that the way money comes to me is from working in a way that allows me to be totally aligned with my life’s purpose- helping and educating others. Money and our relationship with it can be very complex, and like many things can be used for good or bad.

 I hope that for you, money comes from work that is fulfilling and that you can choose to spend it on things that also bring joy and contentment.

#Spendingmoneywisely #familyvacationideas #joyandcontentment

Family and contentment

Love

#Contentology #Love

Love is such a powerful energy, and I’m so grateful that i have an amazing family immediate and extended family that fills me with love and contentment.

This weekend, in particular, our entire family is so excited to share that love with the newest member of our large family – as we are getting to meet my niece for the first time. Our sweet niece was born on the 27th of March, just as travel restrictions changed our March, April and May. We have been sending our love in messages and conversations, but nothing says love quite the same way as touch. And being able to touch and hold to express love in the way we would like to, has not been possible.

But this weekend, we will get to share that love and touch, with this new baby and to my sister and brother in law who have become parents these past few months.

I’m also looking forward to seeing the love from my own children being shared with their new baby cousing (they are just so excited to meet her!)-it will be a picture of love overflowing! So I hope that you are able to have love in your life, make sure those that you love hear it from you today and may your heart be full.

Love – contentment – overflows

Focus

#Contentology
#Focus #mindfulness #attention

Getting into focus, getting un-fuzzy, training our minds to think of one thing at one time, takes a lot of practice!

I have a mind that jumps all over the place at times, and it likes to anticipate, work things out and be prepared.

So for me, getting focused takes a concerted effort at times.

That’s why I practice mindfulness-as this is a form of getting focused. It is paying attention to the moment you are in and being aware of this. I can find it easy to do this without effort when I am doing things like painting and creating, but harder when I’m doing ‘relaxation’ at the end of my yoga session. That’s when my body is relaxed, and my mind wants to race, ponder and run wild. So it takes deliberate action to get my mind to focus. I usually use my breathing as something to focus on, which does help.

This morning as I was trying to drink my tea, I tried to focus just that process of drinking and the sensations it involves-the smooth glass in my hands, the warm tea in my mouth and throat. The feel of warmth on my face…. But then it was getting kids ready for school time, and my focus got interrupted, and the moment was gone. Which is ok, it’s not easy to focus, it takes practice, and the focus might only be there for a minute, but doing some practice of focusing our attention, getting a chance to just be present, is still very important.

I find for me, it quietens the rush inside my mind, it gets me calm, and it often brings clarity to my thoughts and my purpose for the day. And those are things that are really important to me.

So I invite you to see what things you can bring into your focus today, can you focus on your breath, tune into one of your senses, or even a thought for a moment or two.… and notice what happens.

Kate x

Mindfulness with Focus – Attention

Alignment

#Alignment #contentology

Being in alignment means being connected to something bigger than myself and feeling that I’m living my life in respect to the values that I hold most dear.

In thinking about what has happened so far in 2020 so far and the tragedy that continues to unfold, especially in the US currently,  but also all around the world where humans show that we have the  capacity to hate, hurt and destroy, as much as we have the ability to love, to heal, to nurture, to forgive and to ask for forgiveness.  

I’m reminded about how these things affect who I am, about how I choose to live my life and the messages I choose to share.  I feel that my alignment is about making choices, often hard, that are often uncomfortable for ourselves and others in my orbit, but there are always choices.  

So the choices that I want to make, are those that remind myself and others of our brightest natures.  That we have the ability to forgive, the ability to understand and empathise and the ability to pause and reflect before lashing out.  

Living in my alignment is that each day I try to illustrate that we actually all have this choice, and to share this reminder that you can choose how to live your life and choose in each moment to be the best version of yourself.  

#ally #blacklivesmatter #Alignment #makingchoices #bestversionofmyself

Living in Alignment

Soul Chats

2/30 #contentology

If my soul could speak directly to yours, this is what I would say.  

That you have absolutely got this!  

That you have the right to follow your dreams, that you should be on this earth doing what makes your soul sing!.  You don’t need to explain or justify why things make you happy and why you want to chase your dreams, just know that I believe in you and think you should do it.  

In the end you must make yourself happy, or we are no good to all those we love around us.  So if you have a flicker of a dream, if you have a glimmer you’d like to see if it could be more, then I encourage you to do so.  

I implore you to see what could happen with it.  So take a big breath, take a risk and know that no matter what, I believe in you and I am here for you.

Soul Chats – Chasing Dreams

Motivate

#Contentology #1Motivate

Motivation is such an interesting word and one that when I hear it, I have mixed feelings about it.  Mainly because in the world of helping people change and just in everyday life, I often hear people talking about making a change when they ‘feel motivated’. So often, we look for inspiration to get ourselves to get us into action.

However, we know that motivation as an emotion or experience comes and goes fleetingly and it alone is not enough to sustain change (for very long).  It is a rush, and it makes us feel good and powerful and uplifted, but it cannot sustain long-term behaviour change. 

Motivation alone will wane, your motivation ‘muscle’ will get fatigued, and life will get in the way, and your great intentions will diminish, and you will return to your usual habits.  Not because you are lazy or flawed or incapable of change, but because motivation or desire to change is not enough to sustain the change.  Having a surge of motivation is a great place to kick-start things, get you into a bit of momentum, but you need more than that to continue it.  

But today, I hope you are feeling motivated; today I want to you to build habits that will create positive change, and that positive change will, in turn, motivate you.  But you need to build in expectations for yourself and follow through on your plans, even when you do not feel motivated.  So you can use the rush of motivation to begin a positive domino effect, but don’t expect it to carry your through to long-term change, without having a more detailed plan.

A plan to keep the change going might include:

-Having someone to help support you when your motivation wanes, 

-Telling someone about your dreams and goals and asking them to check in on you and ask you how you are going,

-Having visual reminders of your dreams and goals.  

But really, it is knowing that change is a process; you will have days when you can’t be bothered, but that for change to be lasting, you need support, and you need people around you who get it. 

So think about what gets you motivated, but more importantly, what will keep you going, what will keep you choosing your new plan and who will you have around you to support your change. 

Kate

Motivation – build habits – positive change