Be Yourself

#contentology #raw #unfiltered #psychologist

Being unfiltered, being honest and being YOU can be sometimes
harder than it sounds. Children are best at it, before we have
skilled them too well in becoming ‘socially appropriate’ and
considerate of others feelings. I know that these are important
social skills, but never at the expense of losing sight of their special
abilities, and their uniqueness-as is something we don’t want to
ever lose. So getting that balance right can be an ongoing journey
for our children, but also for ourselves and human beings.
For me, I know that being less filtered and polished is something
that I’m working on. Particularly because of my profession as a
psychologist, there can be a big responsibility and sometimes
expectations that we must behave perfectly, that we are always
clinical, always thoughtful, always respectful to everyone, always
giving, always patient (especially in public, and especially on social
media!).

But nobody can be like that all of the time, and I’m wondering it that
it may be counter-productive to helping our clients and families, if
that is how we are continued to be perceived. Maybe we should
also show our other sides too, and also demonstrate assertiveness,
opinions, have likes and dislikes and talk about those days when
being thoughtful, insightful and measured is harder to come by.
So I’m here to be more authentic, to embrace my weaknesses,
show my personality and remind you that I am human and can be
real and flawed. Which gets me thinking is that how you’d prefer it? Is knowing that I
can have great knowledge and years of experience helping others
in the area of autism, parenting, child psychology and therapy but
that also I have days when I’m a rubbish parent, selfish partner,
inpatient and easily frustrated, helpful-or does that make what I
teach less valuable?

It’s an interesting conundrum to ponder, but I think that whilst your
therapy sessions don’t become about me, knowing that everyone
has good days and bad, everyone has challenges, everyone has
weaknesses and everyone can still be learning, (including your
psychologist), can only be a positive step towards normalising what
we do and who we are, and reducing the anxiety about starting a
therapy or intervention journey.

So that’s a risk I’m willing to take and one that I will continue to lean
into.

So I thank you for letting me be your real, raw psychologist.

Published by Kate French

Clinical Psychologist; expertise in autism and child and family psychology.

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